We use Existential Phenomenology as it relates to individual and/or group
dynamic, development or transition. We consult with a client, presenting
perspectives and possibilities. We
do not offer mental health treatment, counseling or diagnosis. We
are existential phenomenologists. In the dialog we may, and do, refer to
resources specific to the professional needs articulated by the client.
Phenomenology is the study of structures of consciousness as experienced from
the first-person point of view.
Instead of prescribing a course of treatment or action you will be engaged in a conversation where your views are actively sought and where the consultant will be seeking to explore with you, reflecting you, rather than being silently 'there' for you. Fundamentally, this is not talk or talking therapy but relationship with safe boundaries and boundless possibilities. To see some particulars, please use the other tabs to your left, Including services. Either signify verbally or by email firstname.lastname@example.org that you have discussed and understood the Disclosures that have been described by the Consultant and that you would prefer that no record of meetings and/or plan will be kept by your Consultant. Any recordings or other materials that might be part of our meetings are your property and will be kept by you. The regular exceptions to this rule are date of service, check number/cash and your first name with the initial of the last name, which are retained for accountability issues. Statements are available upon request. (There are also legal mandates to warn, as well as report of any exploitation or abuse of a child)
If this meets your interests then return to begin for information on how to start. Or for you may want to contact, please go to that page. At no stage do we want you to feel uniformed by us. Finally - Any and all questions are taken seriously. If one of us does not know the answer, or does not want to answer, you will be given the validation of a genuine reply. You are also free to take a hiatus, discontinue consultations, or ask for clarification at any time during our relationship. But for now, if you feel this is an valid avenue for you, please do not hesitate to begin the conversation.
Your world as YOU might want to explore it - Phenomenologically and Existentially
How may the philosophical orientation effect you as a client?
(A) Record-keeping:In the interests of privacy this consultant/client
does not wish to take or keep notes on clients. This includes testing
materials and any taped sessions. The philosophy of this group, Existential
Phenomenology, supposes that all of these remain the property of the client.
The exception to this is where the individual is
either Court mandated or where there are legal issues, including the
exploitation of minors. Even then the client will be informed but not
shielded from the consequences of illegal or abusive actions.
A Release of Information will always be
sought if any third party wishes access to any information that the consultant
might have. This document is not a
Release of Information.
Be mindful that this consultancy is not an advice-giving or counseling
We operate in the way that countless other communities discuss:
khoswe; one who speaks with another, "brother/sister" in taking up another's case; one who comes to introduce ideas, also overture
unguza; look around
unika; one who holds up a light to let one see anything
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People coming to us not only should expect
confidentiality and respect - but there is an expectation of privacy.
They should be free to discuss any issue with the certain knowledge that
nothing will be revealed without their understanding. Client/s can talk with whomever and whenever they please. Many do share the contents of the conversations to others who may well be using the same service/ However we chose not to discuss client/s meetings and conversations - even with each other. Clients are not
confined to talking about problems - any issue is appropriate as long as it is
respectful and meaningful.
.We answer all questions - no questions is seen as inappropriate. If we do not know or cannot answer we will indicate the 'why and what' of the issues involved.
should treat others as one would like others to treat oneself.
Be with the Other. Being
there is not always enough.
See through the eyes of the
Other and come upon oneself as Stranger.
If you choose to move forward, please indicate by letting your consultant know verbally, or if you prefer, email
that you have read and understood the Disclosures and information that has been presented to you either in conversation or within this document, and that you would
prefer that no
record of sessions and/or action plan will
be kept by the consultant.
The following is a description of
existentialism not written anywhere else. It describes the importance of
OUR dialog and the significance of being able to rely on confidentiality,
authenticity and full disclosure. If this seems too rambling - then blame
the writer and move on to the section on services or another area
So....... Message or Messenger? When people write, or we talk to one
another, that is an interaction which continues beyond the immediate,
and the autistic. It ripples out in terms of time - other interactions - and
philosophy. Creating that sense of vulnerability moves any interaction into the
realm where it MEANS something - - and that meaning is NOT dependent on me as a
single individual. If the message is valid then it rises in importance beyond
me.... and that if there is no response - that is not just neglect, but the
choice to not respond MEANS something too! A choice to not
choose is still a choice and has repercussions and ramifications that we as individuals
are responsible for. A "no-choice” implies tacit
agreement, especially if we claim “... only following orders"
. It has always comforted me to know that I, as messenger, am not
that important - but that the message (however lowly and mundane) is very
important. YOU are very important because you are calling me out to be both
genuine and valid. What I truly want is your well being, to do the best for you, and thus I am rarely selfish as I keep reaching for that which is just a little beyond me. To not speak authentically with you is a
deliberate act of ignorance - which is the intentionality of bad faith.
If I speak,
although I am responsible for that message and its reply, I am speaking
to something that transcends me and thus it behooves me to take care. Not be
defensive, but to take care. Again to be cautious in my vulnerability but,
because I am aware of my words, I am not exposed. I have the obligation
not to expose you but to seek, in our conversation, to discover. So - with your
business. Your 'message' is your unique choice of items, or actions which are
of great, intrinsic, beauty, and your willingness to put them out to the other
(the purchaser or recipient) for them to enjoy and appreciate. The recipient,
even if he or she is a supervisor or corporation, will and cannot do that
with as much expertise and interest as you. If you do not do this then the
'message' is not there and it can never be heard.
As messenger it is easier to
keep true to the message. If I discard it, neglect it, fight against it or even
encourage others to do that - then I will find my life unrewarding and
dissatisfying. I will always feel resentful that I do not ' have ' what I
perceive others to enjoy. In the Grand Scheme of Things, you, and me,
are not important or significant. What we say is - so long as we say it in truth and
validity. That means that you can start your business, go to work, knowing
that what you are saying/doing is more important than the lack of confidence
you (or I) may
If not you (telling the message) then who else? I can't do it; the Asian Art Gallery near to Pioneer Square isn't doing it..... The guy in the cubicle next door is
not - - so who else? What you have to give is unique. .............. And
important. It is also PRIVATE to you and the people you choose to share
with. It is not to be a source of gossip and report to another unknown
third party! You may – if you want – freely disclose about us/me/our
Think of two people talked about in the past ... for both
of them the message is irrelevant. They both want to be seen as messengers
clothed in ruby red and gold with a big brass horn to trumpet with. But when
they unfurl the parchment and squint at it - it says nothing. And they have to
go away until the next time they want to dress up and shout. Hence why the guy
in the next cubicle HAS to make jibbing, jokes at you. To sneer at someone else
“only in fun, of course ", is the only way a messenger can feel important
- by digging at someone else to diminish them. How sad!
My message is the
philosophy that impassions me. I HAVE to deliver the message because it is such
fun, so good, so intrinsically important - and that is true even if I am sat at
a computer screen writing Instant Messages. The message is the same, whether I
talk about the struggle against cell phone hacking, or I laugh at BBC America, or I relay
my pleasure listening to music. That is what makes us human and what is
really important. That we communicate to communicate - not to increase our
(illusionary) self importance as messenger. Thus the message is 'sacred' and not an item of gossip and unfair speculation. By delivering the message I can
feel more useful and I do not have to handle what others feel, that I don't
feel, about me So the message makes me significant but not
important. I tend to be a little wordy .... But, The message is more
important than the messenger. And our recognition of the message makes us aware
of our imperative to deliver it.
Your message is to have fun and give people a
way of appreciating fine and unusual items, or words, or tasks ( for which they
give you money). Mine is to observe, accept and opine on the world and all its
inhabitants - and have fun doing it. I reflect "looking through the eyes of the Other, and thus (I hope( to come upon myself as Stranger",